Conditioned To Complain

It seems as though we live in a society where complaining is the norm.  You can say, “it’s a nice day” and someone will respond, “no, it’s going to rain later.”  Why can’t we just enjoy the day no matter if the sun is shining or if it rains.  Complaining has become a part of our regular conversations.  It like a pre-programmed app in some people’s personality.  They complain about their weight, health, job, children, spouse, home, car and the list goes on.  Complaining is a deadly poison.  It kills all the life in finding the beauty in anything. If you complain you poison everything around you.  Complaining keeps your mind trapped in the negative and you cannot see anything positive even if it is right in front on your face. 

Why complain about your weight and not exercise? Why complain about your job and not increase your skill set for promotion or find another job? Why complain about your home when you drove pass a homeless person asking for help?  You complain about your spouse when a single woman is praying everyday for a husband.  Instead write down 5 things about your husband that bring you joy. Pull out your wedding video and watch it to rekindle the flame of love in your heart. 

Go purchase some new cleaning products and go home and clean the house you have.  Open up the blinds to let some light in. Put on some music and clean your space. A clean, decluttered living space will bring peace to your home.

Stop comparing your children to your best-friends.  They are your children, they are a mix of you, their father and themselves.  Love the children you have.  This doesn’t mean they don’t need correction however, complaining is only making things worse.  Speak life to your children. Speak blessings over them, tell them how good they are at (fill in).  They don’t have to be the smartest person in the class to be a bright child. Being efficient in life is much better than being fast.  We can speed down the road going the wrong way.

Let’s change what we have our minds set on and look for the positive. Let’s reconsider watching, reading or listening to the things that fuel negativity.

Produce life by the words you speak.  If you don’t believe that words have power. Think about when your parents, boss or spouse spoke harsh to you. They just spoke words and never laid a hand on you and it hurt. So every time we complain we are hurting our now and poisoning our future.

Be thankful and flourish!!!


  • DeeB

    June 22, 2017

    Well said!!!

    • E Thornton

      July 30, 2017

      Thank you!

  • LL

    July 30, 2017

    Great article on re-adjusting your focus on the daily blessings we have. Complaining is the “dis-ease” of one’s own unfulfilled desires, dreams and wounds of un-forgiveness. It is imperative that we consider a “Heart Detox”, if we are to truly transform from our old ways.

    • E Thornton

      July 30, 2017

      Thank you! I love the “heart detox” I think that would make a powerful conversation.

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